If you have never experienced Coaching, NLP or Hypnotherapy before you may have some questions. In this frequently asked questions I’ve tried to address the common ones if you have other, specific questions then please just book a no obligation call or email me to discuss.
What happens in a therapy session?
In the first session we’ll talk about your problem and where you want to get to because, unless we know where you want to go how would we know when you get there?
You don’t need to bring anything or prepare anything. Just see this as you time, a chance to concentrate on yourself without feeling selfish or indulgent.
You might be concerned that you won’t be able to explain your problem, but don’t worry. I’m an ex-nurse and a coach and I’m used to working with a wide range of people and I’ll use gentle but targeted questioning to help you articulate what you are feeling and experiencing.
I’ll give you a safe, non-judgemental space to get your own demons out into the light so that we can deal with them. I’ll guide you and put you at ease so that you feel comfortable expressing yourself in your own way.
Most people are surprised at how much clarity they begin to get simply by answering questions and having the time and space to talk completely honestly about things they may never before have said out loud.
It’s not unusual for someone to seek help from a coach or hypnotherapist for one issue and then for the real issue to emerge as something different. This is why my sessions are not a ‘one size fits all’, inflexible model like many others, they are customised and designed especially for you and you alone.
Don’t worry, it’s all confidential and I’ve experienced a lot in life, so I doubt if you’ll shock me. Interest me, yes, but shock me, no.
At this time, we’ll also discuss your personal treatment plan and you’ll have plenty of time to ask questions. Then, when we are clear about what you want to work on, we’ll use powerful techniques to move you forward.
Every one of my clients receives the same benefits of working with me such as
- Text and phone support
- 15 Minute ‘laser coaching’ call between sessions
- Written and recorded instructions for practicing change techniques
- A powerful recording which I design especially for you to keep you moving ahead with your transformation
These are only some of the features – you can read more here.
In between sessions I’ll e-mail ‘homework’ so that you can continue to move ahead at a good pace.
You can email me, text me or book a short call in between sessions if you have any questions or you need to discuss anything at all about your treatment.
We don’t necessarily have to use hypnosis if you don’t want to. But it can be a powerful way of helping the changes stick. We can discuss this if you have concerns, but we’d never do anything you’re not comfortable with.
Where would we meet?
We can meet online via Zoom or Skype until it is safe to meet face to face again. If you’re wondering if online is just as effective then I can reassure you that it is.
When it is possible to do so safely we can meet in my calm and relaxing rooms in the Strand, London or Banstead Surrey.
Sessions last around 90 minutes.
How many sessions would I need?
This is a difficult one to answer as everyone is different and each problem is unique. I would usually recommend working together initially for six to twelve weeks but this depends on your issue. Everyone is individual so I would never force you to make changes any quicker than you can cope. It’s important that you get lasting changes, not short-term fixes. This is something we would discuss before we begin to set out realistic time frames.
How much does it cost?
It’s best to speak to me and we can discuss this – don’t be shy about talking about money. It’s an investment but it’s also important for you to overcome your problems and move on. My style of Coaching, NLP and Hypnotherapy doesn’t tend to be long term therapy and the results are generally quicker and longer lasting than other forms of therapy.
I don’t know what coaching is
Coaching helps you bridge the gap between where you are now, to where you would like to be far more effectively than if you tried to do it yourself. As a Coach I can help you do this, raising your awareness by questioning techniques so you know exactly what you want; helping you to be clear on the steps you need to take, supporting you when you encounter obstacles and giving you tools and techniques to make changes.
What is hypnosis?
What is Cognitive Hypnotherapy?
Maybe you haven’t encountered hypnosis before, or you’ve seen it on stage as entertainment. For this reason, a lot of people tend to think of hypnosis as something that is ‘done to them’.
This couldn’t be further from the truth. In Cognitive Hypnotherapy we see the trance state as something we’ve been doing to ourselves all of our lives – think about daydreaming. Watch this three-minute animation where Trevor Silvester, the founder of the renowned Quest Institute, describes exactly what cognitive hypnotherapy is:
It is all about trance …
Everyone goes in and out of natural hypnotic trances every day, without perhaps realising it. Have you ever been so absorbed in a book or film that you’re surprised at how the hours seemed to fly by? Have you ever driven from A to B and not remembered anything of the drive?
But, if something surprising had happened you would have been instantly alert and able to respond to it, wouldn’t you? This is an example of everyday trance we all experience. Hypnosis is no different; it’s simply an altered, but completely natural, state of awareness.
You see, the things that we are most likely to call ‘problems’ are negative everyday trance states, we’ve ‘done’ our problem on autopilot because somehow the wrong programming got put into our unconscious software.
Think of someone screaming when they see a spider; they do this automatically because it is a trigger response from the unconscious. If you’re not scared of spiders this might seem a stupid reaction, because you don’t have that bit of software.
So Cognitive Hypnotherapy and NLP aims to ‘re-programme’ your unconscious in a very safe way that’s right for you, so that after a while it becomes more and more normal for you to live life more happily, whatever that is for you.
Will I lose control in any way?
No, you’re in control at all times. A hypnotherapist doesn’t have any control over you, and you can’t be made to do anything you don’t want to do. I won’t make you dance like a chicken or act like a washing machine or any other silly, sensational things you may have seen in stage(d) shows.
Why is Cognitive Hypnotherapy different?
Clinical hypnosis and hypnotherapy is a generic term use for hypnosis for therapeutic purposes. These methods tend to be focused on the problem so all clients with the same issue tend to be treated in the same way. How I work is different.
Unlike many hypnotherapists, as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and Coach I approach everyone, and their problem, as unique, requiring an approach entirely tailored to you and your needs.
Although the results can sometimes be spectacularly quick, we never go faster than is right for you so that looking back you’ll realise why we worked at the pace we did. The pace that’s right for the changes you want to make.
By identifying unconscious patterns of thoughts, emotions and behaviours related to your issue I guide you towards the solution that you want. I can’t tell you exactly what I would do in each session as everyone’s needs are different – therefore your therapy programme will be unique to you. You’re a person, not a label.
And I use a combination of Coaching, NLP and Hypnotherapy to give you the best experience.
Why do you work with the unconscious mind?
90% of your behaviour happens without you having to think about it, driven by your unconscious mind rather than your conscious mind. We learn something and then that runs as a programme in the unconscious mind. This is how habits are formed.
Most of the time that works for us, we don’t have to think about how to put our socks on every morning or brush our teeth. But we can also learn a negative behaviour pattern, which can run automatically, for example we may have been bitten by a dog when we were little, so our unconscious tells us that all dogs are dangerous. Not true, obviously, and not helpful.
But if the subconscious has laid down this belief then every time we see a dog it will trigger the stress response to keep us safe. The subconscious doesn’t care if we are happy, embarrassed, inconvenienced by the response – its’ primary concern is to keep us safe and it does it in the only way it knows how, priming us to run, fight or freeze.
So, although we consciously want to change, unconsciously the programme continues to run without you even being aware it’s there so trying to change things on a conscious level takes a very long time and often isn’t successful. You’ve always got the saboteur in the background. This is when you might find yourself looking back at what you’ve said or done and thinking:
What’s the matter with me?
Why do I keep acting/feeling/behaving in this way?
It’s stupid/embarrassing/childish etc.
Stop beating yourself up. It’s not your fault. Your unconscious is just doing its job. Because of this, talking alone or trying to solve things on a conscious level doesn’t really work, or works for a short time and then you slip back into old unhelpful habits and ways of thinking or behaving. It’s frustrating isn’t it?
The key to lasting change resides at an unconscious level and this is why Cognitive Hypnotherapy, my combination of Coaching NLP and Hypnotherapy is so effective.
Can anyone be hypnotised?
Yes, anyone can be hypnotised, provided that they want to be. No one can be hypnotised against their will.
Where’s the evidence that this approach works?
The Institute where I trained, Quest, is the only hypnotherapy organisation and training school that has evidence-based research specific to and whose in-house-funded research project is listed with NICE in their research area.
Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy (QCH) launched a unique research project in 2011. Using a team of QCH therapists, clients with anxiety and depression were assessed using the same outcome measures currently used to assess the effectiveness of talking therapies within the NHS. The pilot study was published in the Mental Health Review Journal in 2015.
It recorded that, using 118 cases measuring the effectiveness of Cognitive Hypnotherapy for the treatment of depression and anxiety, 71% considered themselves recovered after an average of 4 sessions. This compared to an average of 42% for other approaches using the same measures (like CBT). To our knowledge, this is the only hypnotherapy approach to have been validated in this way.
You can read more information about the research project here: cognitive hypnotherapy research overview
What is NLP?
People communicate feelings in different ways. Most of these feelings are actually communicated unconsciously, behaviours, language, facial expressions, body language and words. NLP Coaches are trained to recognise these subtle, unconscious clues to understand how you are feeling.
NLP teaches us how changing the way we perceive and interpret what is happening inside ourselves (our internal world) and events outside of us (our external world) means we can adjust and adapt our behaviours in order to live the life we really want to.
As an NLP coach I will encourage you to transform limiting self-beliefs and move out of your comfort zones.
It’s easy for people to become depressed, anxious and to feel like a failure if they are constantly thinking negative thoughts. Beliefs such as, “I’m not good enough” or “I shouldn’t be here” can hold you back from being the best version of you. And you may not even be aware of where they come from or how they are affecting you.
You may make the mistake of believing your unhelpful self-talk to be true. It usually isn’t. It’s just your subconscious creating unhelpful chatter to try and keep you safe. But you can be too safe, and never come out of your shell to really live your life to the full. NLP helps you to do this using powerful techniques that ‘re-programme’ behaviours to a more helpful state.
I’m not sure I want to go into things that happened in the past
‘Sometimes the best thing about the past is that it’s over’, according to Richard Bandler, co-founder of NLP.
You can’t change the past, but you might be surprised at how powerful it can be to go there to change the effect that past events may be having on the present. But you don’t have to tell me anything about it if you don’t want to. We can work on issues from the past without my knowing the detail, or we can just focus on the present and the future.
You do so much, how will I know what type of therapy is right for me?
You don’t need to know. I’m only telling you what I do so that you can see the broad range of skills I can use. Of course, I won’t use all of them with you – but we have a smorgasbord of research-based techniques, tools and skills to choose from so that we can find the right one at the right time for you.
What are your qualifications?
My relevant qualification include Diploma in Cognitive Hypnotherapy having trained at the prestigious Quest Institute in London, Post Graduate Diploma in Health and Wellbeing, NLP Master Practitioner and CBT trained. I’ve also studied Positive Psychology, Acceptance and Commitment therapy, Emotional Freedom Technique and neuroscience. I’m fully insured and registered with the National Council of Hypnotherapists, the Complimentary and National Healthcare Council.
I am also a qualified Transformational Coach, a member of the Association of Professional Coaches and Trainers and an approved Institute of Environmental Health Trainer.
I am a former Registered Nurse and Health and Safety Inspector with an expertise in Stress Management.
Why not give it a try or if you have any further questions or you want to discuss anything in more detail, and in particular how this unique blend of Coaching, NLP and Hypnotherapy can help you, then just get in touch by emailing me or booking a free consultation.
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