I didn’t realise that I wasn’t living my own life until about 10 years ago. I suppose, like a lot of people, I feel for the ‘you should, need to, ought to’ messages around me and I was influenced into doing things that really didn’t serve me.
Not shifting the blame, I bought into the messages and went along with things but then I kind of ‘woke up’. I don’t know why, but I realise I was running in the wrong lane. I didn’t want the corporate job, expensive clothes, lots of ‘things’. I wanted to help people, work with people on a personal basis, experiences, moments, lots of moments. I wanted a lot more in my personal life. Essentially, I wanted to be me.
Not living my life was causing me a lot of anxiety and at one time a deep depression. I didn’t realise that at the time. I just always thought I was weird, different and pathetic for not coping with life better. I always felt ‘left out’, like I didn’t really get life and this left me feeling lonely and confused. I built up some pretty unhealthy coping strategies. It was a revelation to find out what was at the bottom of this – I wasn’t being my true self. She was hiding away, afraid to come out because she knew that, at that time, she would get ridicules, rejected, criticised and worn down..
I made the changes I knew I had to make. It wasn’t easy but it was worth it. Some of these changes are ongoing and I’m still discovering things about myself but I’m happier now than I have been for a long time.
I also studied all I could about anxiety and the unhealthy ways people often cope, to become an expert so that I could help others, hopefully earlier in life than me. I went on a knowledge quest and learned powerful techniques from the best of the therapies so that I could help others who, like the old me, were struggling to find themselves, lacking confidence, cripplingly self-conscious and not realising their full potential.
I now work with women who want healthier coping strategies to deal with the challenges life throws at us all. Women who, in the past, may have turned to alcohol or food or hid their true selves to stay ‘safe’. Women who deserve better, who want to show their genuine, authentic self so that they can have the deep connections they want and need to have truly rewarding lives.
Women who want to own their lives.
When you are thinking of working with a therapist you might want to consider the following:
- You must feel you can confide in them and trust them.
- You want someone who has some experience in life, who understands your issue, can empathise with you and not be judgemental.
- They must offer support when you need it.
- It’s important that you feel comfortable talking to them and they inspire confidence.
- They should be realistic about the work you will need to do to make the changes you want and not make silly promises that you know can’t possibly be true. Everyone is different and each person makes changes at their own pace but a good therapist will give you an idea of how much time you will probably need, based on their experience, to get the result you want.
The only way you would know, unless you have a strong recommendation, is to reach out and speak to them. That’s why I offer a complimentary consultation call so that you can check out how I sound, how I work and, of course, if I feel I can help you. And even if we don’t end up working together, I’m sure we’ll have a lovely conversation anyway.
So click this link to book your Complimentary Call – and begin to imagine how much better your life will be without constant anxiety.
Or just send me an email and I’ll get back to you.